We explore new territory in this one. Be ready to be both open-minded and skeptical.

“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.”
― Aristotle

Discussed:
Catherine's success healing people fast
Her story relating to conservative parents
Psychic visioning and viewing....is it scientifically valid?
What is energy work?
Omens
Human stages of consciousness

Mentioned:
Honoring the Self by Nathaniel Branden
You Are the Placebo by Joe Dispenza

Catherine:
Super47.org
Facebook

— Derek Sivers

Discussed:

• Kirsten's story growing up around the world, with teachers as parents
• Clearing a profound belief that stemmed from a trauma
• The masculine feminine polariity in our culture: what's gone wrong?
• How to approach a woman

Mentioned:
Mindfix
The Alabaster Girl by Zan Perrion

Kirsten:
Who Wears Your Pants? Podcast
KirstenTrammell.com

Mentioned:
12 Rules for Life
Selfauthoring.com

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Mentioned:

• Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg
• [Crash.co](crash.co)

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Mentioned:
The Psychology of Romantic Love by Nathaniel Branden

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Discussed:

• Ary's story growing up at home and in school, becoming an entrepreneur
• Common beliefs about money in our culture, e.g. "money is selfish."
• Joel's resistance to asking for money
• Being a "good mom" and being mindful of others' expectations

Mentioned:
Parenting from the Inside Out by Dan Siegel and Mary Hartzell
Mindfix

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Mentioned:
Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg
For Your Own Good by Alice Miller

The Facts About Spanking (reference to % of mothers hitting children)

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Discussed:

• Kevin's story growing up and in school
• Unhealthy vs. healthy teenage rebellion
• The real red pill of the relationship with one's parents
• Connecting to the child self and teenage self
• Self-knowledge and self-acceptance as foundational
• Optimism for the future via psychedelics, bitcoin, and decentralization

Mentioned:
Internal Family Systems Therapy
Nathaniel Branden
Non Violent Communication (3 Hour Workshop)
Harry Brown - How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World
Freedomain Radio "Classic"
The Voluntary Life Podcast - Escaping the Identity Trap

Find Kevin:
freedomlovin.com and Freedom Lovin' Podcast.

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“Follow your bliss.
If you do follow your bliss,
you put yourself on a kind of track
that has been there all the while waiting for you,
and the life you ought to be living
is the one you are living.
When you can see that,
you begin to meet people
who are in the field of your bliss,
and they open the doors to you.
I say, follow your bliss and don't be afraid,
and doors will open
where you didn't know they were going to be.
If you follow your bliss,
doors will open for you that wouldn't have opened for anyone else.”

― Joseph Campbell

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IG: @thatMattLovitt
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While You Walk

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Email me Joel dot Bein at gmail dot com

Mentioned:
Solarpunk Festival

Non-Violent Communication
Visions for a Voluntary World (with Russ Olschner)
Crash
Mindfix

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Email me Joel dot Bein at gmail dot com

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Mindfix results
Jacksonsullivan.com

Donate to EE.

For coaching or to give feedback, email me joel [dot] bein [at] gmail [dot] com

Mentioned:
Mindfix

Support the Show:
https://ko-fi.com/empowered

Email Joel at joel [dot] bein [at] gmail [dot] com

Mentioned:
True Self vs. False Self

**Support the show

Mentioned:
TK Coleman on The Minimalists - Ep. 131

Guest:
Ethan's Instagram
Youtube

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Discussed:

• Sorting out your life one step at a time
• The power of patience and the long game
• Building resilience to improve your life
• Becoming trigger-free as a parent
• The power of psychedelic, psychotherapeutic experiences

Mentioned:
Selfauthoring.com

The Master Key System - Charles Haanel

This is your permission to pause.

Book: Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach

To learn about my empathetic coaching service, email me joel [dot] bein [at] gmail [dot] com.

Email me at joel dot bein at gmail dot com.

Pressfield - The War of Art

We chat about Kamau's school experience, forging an entrepreneurial path, Kobe Bryant's inspiration, and how to balance high achievement with self-care.

Kamau:
Twitter: @WhatNowKamau
Instagram: @WhatNowKamau

Revolution of 1
Twitter: @revolutionof1
Instagram: @revolutionof1
https://fee.org/rev1

Blog: How to Listen Better

Non-Zero Days:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cKJzX6m8p1U&ab_channel=FoundationforEconomicEducation

Deep Work

Digital Minimalism

Daily Rituals

How to Be Lazy - Daniel Coyle

His school vs. education story
Initial rejected to Praxis
Getting a client
3 types of empathy
How to help a friend
Offering curiosity and empathy for an aggressor (but not condoning)
Vision for going beyond punishment

Mentioned:
Evil: Inside Violence and Cruelty

How Praxis is Creating World Peace

Music:
Percy Grainger, Lincolnshire Posy, II. Horkstow Grange - Michael Haithcock, Michigan Symphony Band

https://www.cnvc.org/training/resource/needs-inventory
https://www.amazon.com/Six-Pillars-Self-Esteem-Definitive-Leading/dp/0553374397

Choose your frame.

Same with parenting.

If you want to nourish win-win relationships with your children, then spend quality time by yourself.

Heal your own inner child. Become trigger-free.

But is Joel even a parent? What does he know?

Parenting from the Inside Out, Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and Mary Hartzell, M.Ed.
https://www.drdansiegel.com/books/parenting_from_the_inside_out/

Internal Family Systems Therapy
https://ifs-institute.com/

Non-Violent Communication
https://www.cnvc.org/

Ep. 31 - How to Heal with Meditation
https://fireside.fm/s/j0mRwqcB+OW148aA3

Nathaniel Branden Sentence Completion Exercises
http://www.nathanielbranden.com/sentence-completion-i

You could be doing anything else. ; )

Live intentionally.

Discussed:
-The elephant in the room: domination systems of schooling, religion, parenting, government
-Massive fear, massive distrust, and inter-generational transfer of trauma
-Tossing out the shame/blame, good/bad paradigm

-Status-quo bias
-Government doesn't exist in physical reality
-Does religion respect the child's mind? What is the nature of nature?
-The law of non-contradiction

-Non-Violent Communication intertwined with Internal Family Systems Therapy
-Self-leadership, protector parts, inner critics, exiled parts
-The needs behind protector parts
-Role play with an inner critic
-Self-Acceptance along your journey of growth

-Lack of clarity for both left and right
-Innocence Project, not seeing the elephant in the room
-Unseen costs from existence of government

-Psychedelics as means of inner healing
-Start where you are, heal each day, climb the mountain

Non-Violent Communication (3-hour workshop, worth it)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l7TONauJGfc

NVC Needs Inventory
https://www.cnvc.org/training/resource/needs-inventory

Stolen Concept Fallacy http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/stolen_concept,_fallacy_of.html

Teal Reinventing Organizations
https://www.reinventingorganizations.com/

The 4 S's of Parenting
https://www.parentmap.com/article/the-four-ss-of-parenting-dan-siegels-whole-brain-child

School Sucks Podcast - Adverse Childhood Experiences https://schoolsucksproject.com/tag/aces/

IFS Institute
https://ifs-institute.com/

Innocence Project with Joe Rogan
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Trh7YWo2Bmo

Mahler, Symphony No. 3
https://open.spotify.com/album/31IEPIz4w8e6V7ZSjSLiyb?si=esphr4h2TiSruWJp7staVw

Alice Miller - For Your Own Good, Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence
https://www.amazon.com/Your-Own-Good-Child-Rearing-Violence/dp/0374522693

Wes Bertrand
Complete Liberty Podcast
http://completeliberty.com/podcast/
Healthy Mind Fit Body Podcast
https://healthymindfitbody.com/category/podcast/
Happiness Counseling
http://happinesscounseling.com/
Complete Liberty
http://completeliberty.com/complete-liberty/
Complete Liberty Inside Out
http://completeliberty.com/complete-liberty-inside-out/)
Libertopia
http://completeliberty.com/libertopia/

Mentioned:
Wes Bertrand - Complete Liberty

-Aly's relationship with school and education growing up
-Her Praxis story
-Asserting one's will
-Questioning college
-Push back for leaving college
-Creating a portfolio of projects vs. checking the boxes
-Leaning into the discomfort of publishing
-Failing at vlogging
-The fruits of failure
-Working on new habits, Aly's project speaking to young women
-Goals vs. systems
-How Acton Academy trusts kids

Aly Bazan Instagram:
@aly_fromthevalley

-Joel's story listening to SSP since 2009
-SSP evolution: school problems (cynical) to self-reflection (productive)
-Circle of Control vs. Circle of Concern
-Marketing the message of empowerment
-A Better World Starts with a Clean Bedroom
-Start with health freedom
-Personal growth snowballs
-Relationship freedom, staying visible
-Deschooling, processing the past
-Internal Family Systems Therapy, Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE’s), 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem

Mentioned:

• Complete Liberty Podcast
• https://www.selfauthoring.com/
• If You Can Hear What I Cannot Say, by Nathaniel Brandon
• The Psychology of Romantic Love, by Nathaniel Brandon
• Deschool Yourself Podcast
• Healthy Mind Fit Body Podcast
• Isaac Morehouse
• ACE’s 10 Questions
• School Sucks ACE’s

Follow SSP:
schoolsucksproject.com
Twitter: @schoolsucksshow
https://sspuniversity.com/

We discuss:

• Mitchell's upbringing and desire to "not be poor."
• Do people fear making money?
• Selfishness vs. Selflessness
• Does Ayn Rand care about the poor?
• Give yourself permission to be happy
• Can selfishness help the world's problems?

Mentioned:
Mitchell on Self-Directed Podcast
Ayn Rand on Donahue

Mitchell's Twitter: @Mitch_Broderick
Facebook

The True Self is real.
The False Self wears masks.

The True Self sees the inner child.
The False Self guards against the inner child.

The True Self is honest and logical.
The False Self pretends and lives contradictions.

The True Self seeks self-actualized joy.
The False Self seeks lizard-brain comfort.

The True Self is an assertive alive person.
The False Self is a nice dead person.

The True Self questions.
The False Self conforms.

The True Self is open and compassionate.
The False Self is closed and stern.

The True Self is courageous.
The False Self is evasive.

The True Self sees the False Self, accepts her compassionately, and thanks her for protecting her during fearful times of the past.

The True Self invites the False Self to merge with her in integration, to trust her in getting needs met.

The False Self is the caterpillar.

The True Self is the butterfly.

https://joelbein.com/blog-1/2019/11/09/true-self-vs-false-self/

Discussed:
-Who is Trinity Moss?
-Following curiosity - economics, philosophy, psychology
-Following curiosity - piano, electric bass
-Homeschool to Unschool
-A college assignment flipped on its face
-Questioning and not caring what others think.
-Can one individual change the world?

Mentioned:
[discoverpraxis.com
](discoverpraxis.com)
[trinitymoss.com
](trinitymoss.com)

trinitymmoss@gmail.com

@trinitymmoss (Instagram)

• What is curiosity?
• Are we born with it?
• How do we re-kindle it?
• How school stamps it out
• Boredom is key
• Choosing to read books for pleasure
• Shakespeare in school
• Forced piano lessons?
• Andre Agassi's story of extrinic motivation
• Curiosity is the seed for coming alive

Mentioned:
Non-Violent Communication
Ep. 17 with Katie Testa
Open, by Andre Agassi

Caitlyn Scheel:
Twitter: @CaitScheel
Email: Scheel.Caitlyn@gmail.com

-False Dichotomies
-The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, tapping into "Being" and compassion
-Abundance vs. Scarcity Mindset
-Healing, un-blending with parts and the "Pain-Body"
-Compassion for parts that shame/judge
-Compassion for people who engage in violent actions
-Can you notice why you’re uncomfortable?

Mentioned:
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

Internal Family Systems Therapy

Greater Than the Sum of Our Parts, by Richard Schwartz
Books for IFS

Rethinking the Impact of Traditional Justice- Natalie DeFreitas at TEDxVancouver

Restorative Practices to Resolve Conflict/Build Relationships: Katy Hutchison at TEDxWestVancouverED

Jackson Sullivan Podcast

Jackson Sullivan Podcast (YouTube, conversation #1 with Joel) -

Jackson Sullivan Podcast (YouTube, conversation #2 with Joel)

For its own sake.

Create habits and routine to execute!

Mentioned:
Branden Sentence Completions
5 Regrets of the Dying
Journaling for a Life of No Regrets
The Voluntary Life - Designing a Life of No Regrets
Ep. 7 Jackson Sullivan on Living Consciously

But you also have the choice to not think, to decrease consciousness and self-esteem.

Either way, you can befriend yourself with nourishment.

Mentioned:
Honoring the Self, Nathaniel Branden

Mentioned:

• There is Nothing Wrong With You, by Cheri Huber
• Internal Family Systems Therapy
• Ep. 17 - Untangle Your Inner Chatter
  

• Political change vs. personal change
• Play the long game
• We want to get the need for peace and harmony met quickly, but is that possible through legislation?
• The culture is traumatized through conventional schooling and parenting
• Conditional vs. Unconditional Love
• What about the kids in the year 3000? Generational change.
• The real work is healing self, and that ripples to other people and to children
• Re-wiring the brain to heal trauma
• Personal growth compounds like compound interest
• The reason there is violence in the world
• The True Self can't be extinguished
• It is possible to create a planet of peace
• You always have the choice to persevere
• Reason is squashed out through punishment memes
• Say hello to the child within

Mentioned:

• Don Miguel Ruiz - The Four Agreements
• Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. Podcast
• Maslow's Hierarchy
• Alice Miller
• Toy Story 4

1% a day = 37% /year. Where will you be in 2030? Will you play the long game? Nothing is particularly hard when broken into small steps. Momentum is key. You can't watch a flower grow right in front of you. Extract value from metaphors. 1% applies to all areas of life, because it is a principle. Pursue your happiness quotient. Puncture the membrane of resistance. Start.

Mentioned:

[crash.co](crash.co)
Internal Family Systems Therapy

pardon the background noise - I didn't have my regular podcast mic

Non-Violent Communication (NVC) trainer Katie Testa joins me to unpack an empowering methodology that tackles an essential question: how do you interact with your every day internal chatter?

Discussed:

• What is NVC? Basic framework
• Untangling feelings from thoughts - “faux” feelings
• Developing a vocabulary of feelings (which isn't common in our culture)
• Making a specific request of another person (be ready to hear “no”)
• NVC and negative self-talk
• There is positive intention for every voice in your head
• Bringing curiosity to the inner critic
• Just pause. Just notice your parts.
• Meditate for 4 minutes or 6 minutes? Joel’s inner conflict.
• How to be Radically Honest
• Don’t listen to people’s words
• A criticism of NVC...
• You don’t have to use NVC
• Being aware of role playing to be a “good” person
• All goes back to self

Mentioned

• NVC Feelings Inventory
• NVC Needs Inventory
• Marshall Rosenberg (NVC founder) San Francisco workshop
• Honesty Sucks
• Katie Testa - mdnvc.org

Discussed:

• Throw out your toothbrush
• Quit going to lunch with people you don't like
• Decluttering your mind and space (via Getting Things Done and Minimalism)
• Surround yourself with people who uplift you
• You're not obliged to spend time with anyone
• Go where you're celebrated, not where you're tolerated
• Personal economics and creating space
• Re-framing the reasons behind your decisions
• Hard vs. Hate
• You don't have to do anything

Mentioned:

• Getting Things Done - The Art of Stress-Free Productivity

• Goethe

Discussed:

• I almost didn’t record a podcast this week
• Getting the plate spinning is the hardest part
• Inspiration begins while working
• One trick to continue writing
• Set the golf ball on the tee and swing

Mentioned:

• Anna Quindlen’s Trick to Continue Writing
• Ep. 6 - Compound Effect -

Discussed:

• Stronger legs = sharper brain
• How the 'aha' moment of inspiration is facilitated
• Making deposits in your health and empowerment bank account
• Perfect opportunity to implement new habit
• Doing vs. sort of doing - use your volition
• Tap into the immediate benefits
• Do it to take care of yourself

Mentioned:

• Stronger legs for a sharpen brain - NY Times
• Free Play by Stephen Nachmanovitch
• Dr. Rhonda Patrick - Found My Fitness

Discussed:

• Casey’s story pursuing autonomy, and the day signing his withdraw papers
• What’s the biggest assumption young people have about how to forward in their lives?
• If you want to be an architect, become a real estate developer
• Pursuing the “why" behind a career path, rather than the job title
• Doing what’s in front of you, really well.
• What’s a more creative question for parents to ask teens, other than “what do you want to do?” or “what major do you want?”
• What to do instead of college - getting hired without a degree
• You can’t steer a ship that’s not in motion

Mentioned:

• Praxis, discoverpraxis.com
• Isaac Morehouse, T.k. Coleman, Zak Slayback, founding team members of Praxis
• Recession Proof Graduate by Charlie Hoehn
• A Complete Guide to Building a Career Using Free Work by Derek Magill
• Nathaniel Branden
• Casey McGoff Quora
• Contact Casey at casey.mcgoff@gmail.com

Discussed:

• The multiple definition of happiness
• Etymology of the word "happy"
• Happiness as a recipe of chili
• Happiness as a well-rehearsed orchestra

Mentioned:
CNVC.org needs inventory
How to Cook Everything by Mark Bittman

Praxis alum Evan Le helps young people create habits that give them more value than a degree. He is also digital marketer and founder of GrowthLion Media.

Discussed:

• Evan's mission to help others
• Seeing people as people not group labels
• Leaving your hometown to become your own person
• Living one's own life despite the external and cultural influences
• Respect the person that YOU are rather than faking who you are
• Seth Godin - Just Merely Do It
• Don't live a Double Life
• The Praxis Mindset shift - treat yourself as a professional, not "just a student"
• There are people who talk, and people who do
• Watching the news and affecting change
• Making an impact
• Evan's top habits

Mentioned:

• Praxis - discoverpraxis.com
• Top 6 Regrets of the Dying
• Seth Godin
• Brene Brown
• theevanle.com

• Mark Manson

Discussed:

• Is meaning mutually exclusive from pleasure?
• What needs are you pursuing in your actions?
• What needs are you sacrificing?
• The effort of meaningful pursuits
• Procrastination and meaning
• Planting seeds vs. reaping the harvest
• The Puritan Work Ethic
• Fusing meaning and pleasure
• Discipline and play as a classical musician
• Being conscious of your values and don't judge yourself
• How will you spend your time?

Mentioned:

• Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
• The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson
• Isaac Morehouse - Hedonism as Life's Purpose
• Non-Violent Communication Needs Inventory- cnvc.org

Discussed:
How the movie Inside Out is truly enlightening
Loving yourself when you make mistakes
Non-Violent Communication
Re-parenting your inner child
Diffusing the dichotomy of altruism and self-interest
Building a healthier world within your sphere of control

Mentioned:
cnvc.org

• Jackson’s story
• The amazingness of consciousness.
• Reveling in gratitude
• The most underrated part of the Praxis experience
• How philosophy applies to personal power
• Don’t sleepwalk through life
• The nature of values
• Are we superior to pursue conscious living?
• Living for others vs. living for yourself
• Radical self-acceptance and fully feeling unpleasant feelings
• Nathaniel Banden’s sentence completion program
• Pursuing dreams for the process, not just the endgame
• Question everything

Mentioned:

• Finite and Infinite Games by James Carse
• discoverpraxis.com
• T.K. Coleman
• Isaac Morehouse
• We Will Die
• 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem
• Nathaniel Branden sentence stem

• Improving 1% a day is 38% in a year
• Joel Story! 2 Minutes a Day
• Productivity = amount of time spent X intensity of focus
• Create your time - the results mount over time
• Once you get started, momentum builds

“Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.”

Mentioned:

Self-Authoring Suite - https://www.selfauthoring.com/self-authoring-suite.html

Discussed:

• What is Praxis?
• Caitlyn's take on personal power - what does it mean to flourish?
• Do life circumstances hold a person back?
• Pitching and persuading her parents to let her leave school during the 8th grade, and take charge of her own education
• How do you use unstructured time?
• Interests leading towards a fulfilling career
• Consuming motivating content
• Go do something!
• Unschoolhq.com
• Learning how to learn

Mentioned:

Praxis - discoverpraxis.com

Unschoolhq.com

CaitlynScheel.com

Discussed:

• Gratitude as an emergency fund
• The 2 secrets of gratitudes
• The incredible ability to read music
• The amazingness of the sense of sound
• Choosing your attitude and perception
• The negative gratitude
• The conscious volition muscle
• Henry Ford's inventiveness

Mentioned:
 - The Five-Minute Journal

https://www.intelligentchange.com/products/the-five-minute-journal

Growth occurs when you are willing to do things that might make you look stupid.

Discussed:

• Wayne Gretzky falling down on ice
• Start before you're ready
• Podcasting failures
• Failed attempt at making pasta sauce
• Letting go of what others think
• Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish
• Living a life free of others' expectations

Mentioned:

• The Little Book of Talent, by Daniel Coyle
  https://www.amazon.com/Little-Book-Talent-Improving-Skills/dp/034553025X

• Steve Jobs Commencement Speech - https://www.ted.com/talks/steve_jobs_how_to_live_before_you_die

• Top 5 Regrets of the Dying
  https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/01/top-five-regrets-of-the-dying

• Dr. Myles Munroe

  • Intro and Welcome, Taking on a Podcast!
  • Sphere of Control
  • Authenticity and Imperfection
  • You're Enough
  • Your Buried Treasure

In episode 2, we discuss the cultivation of curiosity and intrinsic motivation in pursuing one's endeavors:

• The summer thirst for Harry Potter
• Intrinsic benefits vs. "making" yourself do something
• Kindling the fire, building the curiosity blob

Mentioned:
TK Coleman, Education Director, Praxis - http://tkcoleman.com/

Praxis - https://discoverpraxis.com/

Getting Things Done - https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Things-Done-Stress-Free-Productivity/dp/0142000280

The Curiosity Blob - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_THrpj83xsk&t=37m49s